Widow Wisdom

This weekend, I had the pleasure of having dinner with a person who has been widowed for 54 years. She lost her husband suddenly in 1955 and had a 5 year old son, 3 year old daughter and 9-month old daughter. She herself was only 25 years old. I know this woman very well, for she is my grandmother. When Louis first passed, I remember asking her Granny how did you do it? This is the hardest thing I have ever had to face in my life, but she told me, she made it because of God's grace and mercy. She said she never wanted any man to feel like he could come into her house and discipline her kids and she knows she had a good husband and no one else could compare. At 21 months out, I can totally relate to her and her feelings. The other widow who was having dinner with us, told her, we are trying to be like you Grandma and there is no statement further from the truth. You see for we feel when it comes to matters of the heart, you know what's real and what's true. When you have experienced true, unconditional, agape love there will never be another that could ever measure up to that. Not saying that you can't love somebody else, but the love that was shared with that deceased loved one can never be duplicated. Grandma said, I am not still grieving, but there is not a day that goes by that I do not think of Mutt. What a testament to real, true, undying love. So Granny, I say to you, what a woman and wife you are. You let those of us who are following in your footsteps know that we can feel how we feel and there is nothing wrong with that. I love you and applaud your courage, your love and your strength.